New to Boarding at Tibbs House

New to Boarding at Tibbs House

Boarding school is often the first time that many teenagers spend a significant amount of time away from home. New boarders need to be proficient in a number of key areas if they are to make a speedy transition to boarding at Tibbs House.

Parents can ensure that their son is prepared by ensuring that he has the following skills in place before he arrives:

  • He knows how to make his own bed, put away his folded clothes and completes other household chores
  • He has an ability to keep his belongings tidy and secure and understands the importance of regular, basic hygiene
  • He knows how to politely address adults and to make requests of them
  • He can maintain a healthy balance between his school-work and free time

Parents can also help their sons prepare for boarding by discussing the following common issues that are often faced by new boarders:

  • Adapting to a community living situation
  • Security: looking after his own property while respecting others
  • Conflict: respecting and tolerating others and their personal space
  • Structure: understanding that a large community is reasonably inflexible
  • Physical and psychological changes
  • Coping with day to day routine and the roles/responsibilities within that routine
  • Communicating with home: negotiate by what means, when, and how often
  • Increased academic pressure and/or unrealistic goals
  • Budgeting: agree on a set amount and stick to it

Homesickness

It is important to remember that it is perfectly normal to miss home and it is often short-lived. Homesickness can be linked to poor grades and/or difficulty with school work so it is important to address the issue quickly. Communication is key - encourage your son to discuss the problem with a Master or a Matron. Staff are experienced in handling homesickness and can call upon Senior boarders to act as a buddy.

New boarders should hang out in the common areas as much as possible so they can form new friendships and be involved in any activities that occur. Being involved in a School-based activity can also help them to make more friends and to keep their mind off being homesick.

Parents should keep communication to a minimum initially and realise that boarders tend to phone when they are at their lowest, often accentuating the negative in an effort to convince you.

Try to focus on the positive aspects of what their hostel and School life provides them. If the reality that one day he is there, the next day he is not, does affect you, do not hesitate to get in touch with the Director of Boarding or your son's Housemaster.

Pastoral Care

Boarders need to realise that having problems is completely normal; it is not a form of weakness to want to talk about these things with someone.

Whatever the problem is, it is better to talk to someone sooner rather than later. Students should feel confident about speaking to any of the Masters, the Director of Boarding or the Matrons - they are all vested with the pastoral care of the boarders, particularly those new to Tibbs House. There is also a designated Guidance Counsellor who is available for students during School hours and after house if need be.

Click here to read about how some of our current students have made the most of the opportunities presented to them while boarding at Tibbs.

What is a typical day in the life of a Tibbs House Boarder?

Weekdays

Time

Action

6:30am

Early breakfast for boarders who have early commitments

7am-7:45am (Monday at 7:25am)

Breakfast is served in the Dining Hall. Boarders either make or order their lunch. On Monday mornings, there is a house meeting after breakfast, where notices are given out. Click here for a sample menu

8:20am (Monday at 8am)

Inspection. Rooms checked for tidiness and boarders inform Master on duty of their plans after school

8:30am-8:45am

All students to depart for School to be at morning assembly at 9am

9am-3:15pm

Boarders attend School

3:15pm-5:15pm

Boarders have leisure time after School; relaxing at Tibbs House, training, competition games, tutoring, etc...

5:15pm-5:55pm

Dinner service and evening notices are given to boarders in the Dining Hall. Saved teas available for students returning late

5:55pm-7pm

Leisure time and/or recreational activities offered by Tutor

7pm-8:45pm

Prep for all students. Click here for more information on Prep and why it is so important for boarders

8:45pm-9:15pm

Supper is served and wind-down time before lights out procedure begins

9:15pm

Form 3 and 4 into bed, side lights on, devices off and away in centrally located device safe

9:30pm

Form 3 and 4 lights out, Form 5 into bed, side lights on, devices off and away in centrally located device safe

9:45pm

Form 5 lights out, Form 6 into bed, side lights on, devices off and away

10pm

Form 6 lights out, Form 7 into bed, side lights on, devices off and away

10:30pm

Form 7 lights out

 

Weekends

Time

Action

6:30am

Early breakfast available for boarders who have early practices etc

Saturday 7:30am-8am / Sunday 8:30am-9am

Breakfast is served in the dining hall. Boarders inform Duty Master of their plans/location for the morning

8am-12:25pm

Informal inspection of rooms. Boarders either at weekend sporting events or at leisure around hostel

12:25pm-1pm

Lunch - Attendance roll is taken and boarders inform Duty Master of their plans/location for the afternoon

1pm-5:25pm

Boarders at leisure in afternoon. Sunday - weekend activity departs (coordinated by Duty Master)

5:15pm

Dinner service starts and the roll is taken. Notices are given to boarders in Dining Hall. Saved teas are available for students returning late

6pm onwards

Leisure time and/or recreational activities offered by Tutor

Sunday from 7:30pm-8:45pm

Prep. If it is an exeat weekend, all boarders must be back at Tibbs House by 8:30pm on Sunday night

8:45-9:15pm

Supper is served and wind-down time before lights out procedure begins

9:15pm

Form 3 and 4 into bed, side lights on, devices off and away in centrally located device safe

9:30pm

Form 3 and 4 lights out, Form 5 into bed, side lights on, devices off and away in centrally located device safe

9:45pm

Form 5 lights out, Form 6 into bed, side lights on, devices off and away

10pm

Form 6 lights out, Form 7 into bed, side lights on, devices off and away

10:30pm

Form 7 lights out